It’s so simple. How healthy you directly affects how happy you tend to be and vice versa. This was something I had to learn and am in fact still learning. While this is not true for every single person out there, there is a reason why exercise always seems to find itself on those “How to Boost Your Happiness” articles.
I notice as I’m on this health journey that when I eat healthier and exercise regularly and take those extra steps in treating my body with love I tend to be happier throughout the day. When I eat good, whole, foods instead of zipping through the to-go lane at a fast food restaurant, I enjoy myself more. Sure I crave junk food every once in a while. But I notice when I take the time to give myself what I need, instead of just what I want, my energy levels are higher, I have less (if any) headaches, my moods are more stable. Also the less I eat junk, the less I crave it.
It’s still hard on a daily basis to change my focus from all the things that are “wrong” to the parts of my life that are truly wonderful. It’s true that I’m not where I had hoped I’d be at this time. I let myself relapse into old habits that are detrimental to my wellbeing. But with the Spring I am starting anew. I’m turning my focus to creating a life that is healthy and happy, not just a body that fits into my “skinny” jeans.
While that sounds all fine and dandy on paper, it’s a lot harder to accomplish in actuality. Now that I pay attention more to the thoughts I think about myself I notice just how damaging I am to myself. Working on changing that self-dialogue has proved to be much harder than sticking to a workout schedule (something I haven’t been so great at either).
One saying I came across recently that I have taken to heart is
If you wouldn’t say to a friend, don’t say it to yourself.
This has become my mantra as of late. When I realize that I am in the midst of tearing myself down I try to remember to meditate on this for a moment. If I wouldn’t tell my friend that she is super dumb I shouldn’t tell myself that. I’m not dumb it was a mistake. If I wouldn’t tell my friend that she is just fat and gross I shouldn’t tell myself that. I have extra fat, I am not fat. The list goes on.
Since I’ve learned to start looking at my health as more than the number on the scale I have learned so much about myself, including the areas where I need the most self love. By working on improving those areas of my life I have seen amazing things happen. Doors have opened up to me in ways I couldn’t have imagined simply because I stopped filling my universe with self-hate. It’s been wonderful.
Be kind to yourself today. It goes a lot farther than you think.
These are little love notes to the universe. Our energy has a way of shaping our experiences. If we give our positive energy then our experiences tend to be more positive. The same for negative energy. Every convinced yourself that a situation was going to have a negative outcome before it happened and when the situation happened it did? By encouraging happiness and love the universe, the Earth, will send that back to you. You get what you put out there.
~ Waking up the birds singing in the morning ~ Having warmer days ~ Glimpsing the sun between the showers ~ The pink blossoms on the trees ~ Portland in the Spring, even if it’s muddy ~ Farmer’s Market bounty ~ Tulips are in season ~ Having tea most mornings
~ My weekend brunch tradition with Vahid ~ Finding the best hot chocolate in town ~ Frequenting Powell’s Books ~ Reading so many good books ~ Learning, I’ve really missed it
~ Trying to focus my day on being happier ~ Knowing that it’s okay to fail because tomorrow is always a new start ~ Letting the frustrations about my current employment go ~ Knowing that new things are coming
What is bringing you joy lately?
My life is pretty great all around. I graduated college. I’m employed. I have a wonderful fiancé who spoils me on a regular basis. I live in a beautiful city and enjoy it regularly. I have great friends close and far that I see when I can. The point is my life is pretty great and even envious to some people.
I don’t feel ungrateful for my life but I have been unhappy for a while. The problem wasn’t external. Sure my job isn’t wonderful and I don’t live in my dream house, but that’s not really a reason to be unhappy. My unhappiness stemmed from within. At the core I was unhappy with myself and honestly no amount of change would make me happy.
Part of my issue was this blog. I found myself coming here to only rehash the same old unhappiness. I stepped back from this place and even considered getting rid of it altogether but at the end of the day I just left it. I figured if I didn’t know what to do with it in six months I’d cancel the whole thing and be done with it.
Somehow I’m still here. You’ll notice that my old entries are gone. I’ve saved them but if I’m really going to change myself I need to move on from all the negativity and ugliness that is in those entries. I need to electronically get rid of the clutter.
Maybe it’s the Spring weather finally showing it’s lovely face or maybe it’s all the wonderful new things I’m starting to learn but I am ready to start a new, with a whole new focus in my life.
I’m focusing on self-love, gratitude, and realizing the happiness in my life. I’m also finally taking my health seriously for the first time.
I only have one of these lives as far as I know I need to start enjoying it now before it’s mostly gone.